Matchmaker Reports Size Does Matter

Posted on December 22, 2011 by Janis Spindel

How Do You Measure Up

This question never ceases to come up in conversation; whether it is from an overconfident male or a self-conscious female…DOES SIZE MATTER?!

I know a lot of women who think the size of their chest would always be better “super-sized.” Other women obsess over their rear-end. It’s true; some men have a preference of the two sides to a woman and claim they love either or. But does it actually matter in the long run? No. We all know Men Are Visual. More than anything, however, men want women with a good body—plain and simple. If a woman is a size F, but her body is just as big he won’t give her a second look.

And men, not to worry. What’s natural is natural. Of course you will probably not find a woman who says she prefers a less than average size “little friend.” It just depends. It depends on whether or not the guy knows how to use what he has. If you’re little friend is not so little at all, you better know what you are doing. Otherwise, you will never be pleasing anybody. And for the short stacks, have no fear. As long as you make up in pleasure what you lack in size, women won’t even notice.

We can’t help what bodies we were born with. Everyone has something they are insecure about. As long we work with what we’ve got, it really won’t be the size of the boat but the motion of the ocean that matters.

Janis Spindel
 

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Online Dating and Matchmaking

Posted on November 13, 2011 by Janis Spindel

The Decline of Online Dating; America’s Top Matchmaker Changes Industry Trend

USA – New York City
November 8, 2011

Online dating sites compete for only 10% market share with a steady decline of subscription revenue due to a short shelf life thereby aggressively chasing the same customers.  Janis Spindel bucks that trend. 

In a bold move, high end and six figure upfront retainer fee Matchmaker opens the doors to the mass market previously only accessible to the rich and exclusive. 

Launching her new online matchmaking site on November 24th, 2011, Spindel offers a free online dating platform with no credit card required to search and contact other members.

She also retains her 20 year successful model of her high end matchmaking platform where members must go through a series of background checks and video profile approvals.

Spindel herself makes the final judgement to allow or decline membership for this exclusive and expensive top tier site.

Spindel feels that not only can she capture a portion of that 10% market share that other online dating sites are competing for, she can also expand to the other 90% of the untapped population.

Her online matchmaking site, www.2lovetoday.com is interactive and rewards those who participate by offering free matches not normally found with other dating sites.

Janis Spindel, America’s top Matchmaker, is blending online dating with traditional Matchmaking all with one click, not to mention a mobile GPS app for the spontaneous member.

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Matchmaker Asks: Man-Scape or Bust

Posted on October 4, 2011 by Janis Spindel

Warning: The following information may be too honest for timid readers.

Let’s be honest, a hairy man is usually a scary man!! We don’t like judging books by their unshaven covers, but in this case it’s better to be safe than sorry. For all of the men out there, here is a subtle tip: MANSCAPING DOES NOT MAKE YOU GAY. In fact, it can most of the time make you that much more sexy. Whether it is your face, your chest, or your lower region, taming your shrubs will be much more attractive.

Women love men. Unless you have a thing for the younger look, having a manly man hold you in his arms is one of the best feelings. However, if the chest you’re lying on feels more like a bear-skinned rug than a hardwood floor, that feeling will vanish. Just as well, kissing could not be any less enjoyable with unshaven cheeks. It’s almost equivalent to brushing your face up against a cozy razor. Eeeww, NO THANK YOU.

The occasional wax, shave, or pluck can only improve the guy’s chance of success with women…especially down there. Keep in mind men, that if the situation were reversed, there would be no way your nose would want to sniff that rose. It goes the same way for women. We can only go by what is pleasing to the eye. And TRUST ME on this one seeing your twig coming out of a bush is just not that hot. Think of it this way, your twig can only grow from a quick trim.

So men, the next time you’re preparing for a night on the town, don’t forget to take a razor, a buzzer, or some wax to any untamed area. And women, if your guy hasn’t shaved and your face looks like you have the chicken pox from kissing him, DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT…even if it takes you doing it for him.

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Dating a Shy Guy

Posted on August 1, 2011 by Janis Spindel

Dating a Shy Guy

The Shy Guy
Well, don’t be discouraged ladies. This is not necessarily a negative quality in a man. You can be confident that he’s not going up and talking to other women when you’re not around; he probably won’t be that arrogant and self-centered; and you can bet that his main goal in bed is to keep you happy.

First of all if you are shy yourself there could be an issue. One of you has to have the capacity to break the other out of his/her shell. If not, you’ll find that the life of a hermit can be quite boring. However, more often than not women start dating a shy man because he seems sweet. Fine. BUT make sure you don’t fall into a lull because he feels insecure or uncomfortable going out and meeting people. A sweet guy is great, but a sweet guy who knows how to take control is better.

Tell me ladies, that you wouldn’t want a guy yearning to command your every wish. Sure, great, grand. Let’s be real though, a guy without a backbone is one of the biggest turn offs. Am I right? Of course I am.

So if you can’t handle his inability to go out, have fun, and socially interact with other humans, DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT. Force him, gently of course, to hang out with you at a place other than his couch. Talk to him about subjects he would otherwise feel uncomfortable discussing: sex, family issues, and things he doesn’t like—even about you.

We don’t always want to fix the guys we love, but it is our job to tweak them into the better versions of themselves. Your shy guy is probably a caring cutie just itching to break out and be a confident stud.

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Matchmaking Recipe for the Perfect Man

Posted on July 29, 2011 by Janis Spindel

Matchmaking Recipe for the Perfect Man
-handsome, funny, successful, smart, gentlemanly
-a kind person who treats you like a lady, good communicator, romantic, spontaneous, generous
-knows how to treat a woman—both in public and in bed
-can be sexy without being arrogant about it
-educated, but doesn’t flaunt his knowledge
-a good lover…monogamously
-worships the ground you walk on; loves you more than you love him
-just an all-around PERFECT guy…who comes to me looking for the PERFECT woman

Who Do You Attract?

SHY GUY
-insecure, late bloomer, not sociable
-lack of confidence
-chances are a Mama’s boy
-no sex appeal!
-probably not a great lover

ASSHOLE
-cocky, sexually driven, self-centered
-all about him, self-absorbed, rude—no manners
-NOT A GENTLEMAN
-probably has a small penis

PLAYER
-smooth talker, multiple girls, sneaky
-really hot, looking to get into pants
-quick to upgrade aka bigger boobs, hotter blonde, thinner body
-great in bed…high chance of herpes

NERD
-old-fashioned, know-it-all, inexperienced
-short, geeky, too busy studying
-book smart as opposed to street smart, therefore lacks an “edge”

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Matchmaker Says: Don’t Judge a Book by Its Well-Groomed Cover

Posted on July 28, 2011 by Janis Spindel

Don’t Judge a Book by Its Well-Groomed Cover

Basing attraction on looks is an obvious habit. Thinking a person is far richer than they actually are, is a mistake we all make…even matchmakers! I usually have pretty intense RADAR, but once in a green moon I can get it wrong!

Last week I met a 6 ft. 4 tall, dark and handsome man at the Hamptons Magazine party. Obviously I immediately started my repertoire of questions. When he gave me his email it was weird, until I heard it was a “tail number” as in PRIVATE plane!! “Here I go again,” I said to myself, “another rich Hamptons kind of guy!” Then he said he “didn’t really work” which made me assume that he was Mr. Hedge Fund, who sold his company.

Well, long story short, this man was not Mr. Hedge Fund after all. Went to lunch with him on Monday and found out differently!! SURPRISE, to say the least. He told me that this miscommunication often happens when he is talking with women. The minute he tells them he is neither on Wall Street nor does he own multiple yachts, their friends are suddenly in need.

A guy can dress like he has a seven figure salary when really he’s a bachelor with college loans. Trust me, there’s nothing wrong with dressing for the job you want rather than the job you have. However, your deceit could throw off even the keenest of people watchers. LIKE ME.

Yes first impressions do last, but thinking someone lives in the penthouse suite just because of the way he is dressed when he is really in a walk up. That’s why it is ever so important to actually speak with people before slapping a stereotype on their head. Even if he speaks like he has money growing on trees, it’s your job to get down to his roots—and quick.

You can never really tell ANYTHING by the way a person looks. I’ve learned, and believe me I am STILL learning, that getting to know someone is the only way, which is why I go on “simulated dates” with men every day.

Be smart. Don’t buy the book unless you’ve researched the reviews.

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Matchmaker Says: When Men Say Jump, They Mean Into Bed

Posted on July 22, 2011 by Janis Spindel

When Men Say Jump, They Mean Into Bed

Jumping into bed with a new “friend” should not be a quick decision. So many times women of all ages have asked, “How soon is too soon?”

Well ladies, it’s simple. If you really like the guy, you want him to respect you. (No it’s not old-fashioned) And let’s be honest, the minute you’re in between his sheets all respect goes out the window.

ATTENTION GUYS: Would you ever say no to a girl giving you a “bj” on the first night? Ok, so I jumped ahead of myself with that question because OF COURSE you wouldn’t, men think with their dicks! But think about it, is this just a “bj” or could you see it going somewhere? If you answered yes, think about the awkward consequences that would ensue after that lustful one nighter. You cannot get to know someone by sleeping with them. Don’t get me wrong you probably know their anatomy pretty well, but the rest is never uncovered.

Ladies, if a guy went for a dive down there on the 1st date, what would you think? Wonder if he does this to all? He doesn’t even know me…. Would this go further than tonight? Let’s get real, have you ever met a couple that began under one night stand circumstances? They are the exception. Otherwise, sleeping with a guy on the first or even third date will get you nowhere; just an awkward goodbye and a picture in the walk of shame.

Countless men have told me their idea of appropriate “first times” is when they’re in a committed relationship. Why must women believe the opposite? If you don’t respect yourself and are just in it for fun, fine go right ahead. But the more you throw yourself out there, the fewer men are going to be there to catch you.

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Matchmaking Sex Appeal or NOT???

Posted on July 22, 2011 by Janis Spindel

Sex Appeal…or NOT…???

It has come to my attention that some men and women just don’t know how to exhibit sex appeal.

Let me start off by saying it is all about your BODY LANGUAGE. Period. If you are miscommunicating without even speaking, there is clearly something wrong. Confidence forms the foundation for all sex appeal.

When I go out on my simulated dates I try to get a feel for the men I am going to match. Saying that some of these men don’t even pop up on my radar of sex appeal would be a MAJOR understatement. I couldn’t even imagine kissing these men, let alone go to bed with them. I mean if I’m sitting across from you and I feel NOTHING…well let’s just say no other woman is going to feel anything either.

Men—you have to understand what it means to be sexy in the eyes of a woman. The more confident and gentlemanly you are the more women will flock your way.Women want a man with an edge: a little cocky, a little playful, and a little out of the box. If you happen to be hotter than hot, your job is a lot easier. However, if you have to “work with what you’ve got”, it might be more of a challenge! Be confident, clever and funny. It seems simple, but some men just don’t know how to exude those qualities.

And women—open up. How do you expect a man to even notice you if your so closed off? Of course keep it classy, ladies. Sex appeal does NOT revolve around cleavage. Appeal is not necessarily about the way you look, but how you carry yourself. Boobs and butt are not all to which a guy is sexually attracted. It’s that look in your eye that says something like, “I want you right here, right now.”

If you don’t exude it, pretend like you do and make the person of the opposite sex believe it…and want it.

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Dating With Safe Sex

Posted on July 21, 2011 by Janis Spindel

Did You Not Take Safe Sex 101?

Whether he went to an Ivy League or just got his GED, men’s thoughts on condoms are all the same—too much of a hassle. Well let me be the one to burst your bubble guys, that hassle is your way out of a lifetime of misery.

We all know that condoms are only 99% effective. That percentage means nothing though if you don’t even put one on. Sure, it is like “going swimming with a raincoat on.” Nobody likes them, but nobody is immune to sexually transmitted diseases either. NOBODY. Not only could you have a child with a person you barely know, but especially if you just met, there’s a good chance of catching a really fun and exciting STD.

Raise your hand if you would enjoy having an STD…

That’s what I thought. Well that’s basically what you’re doing when you don’t practice safe sex. It doesn’t matter how wealthy you are, how many years of medical school, or Harvard Business School you have under your belt. STD’s DON’T CARE. One time “without a bag” is all it takes.

It amazes me how careless some of these men can be. When I ask if you are having safe sex, you shouldn’t be looking at me like I have 10 heads. Don’t forget, your penis could have been educated at the top schools, but without a condom you’ll be at the head of the class for Toxic Dick 101. This concept is not that ridiculous considering today’s world where there is an abundance of hit-it-and-quit-it attitudes.

Plain and simple, don’t be stupid. Common sense will tell you that not using a condom is a BAD IDEA.

Safe sex is great sex.

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Just Enough Class With a Little Hint of Sass

Posted on July 19, 2011 by Janis Spindel

Just Enough Class With a Little Hint of Sass
by Cara Feeney
email: crfeeney2 (at) gmail.com

“As soon as I walked in I knew heels were too much.”

Going in for an interview can be nerve-wracking no matter the circumstance. Meeting with America’s number one matchmaker is no exception. The night before, my overbearing family quizzed me on my qualifications and number one weakness. As if I wasn’t nervous enough, I was told adamantly that my outfit choice, “just wouldn’t do.”

So, donned in a seersucker skirt, white button down shirt, and just inch-appropriate heels I drove the 60 miles east to Bridgehampton. Little did I know that there was no preparing myself for what I was to encounter in the Hamptons office of Janis Spindel.

On just my first day meeting her, Janis taught me my first lesson in business management: if it’s not broke, don’t fix it. A phone call came in during the interview. Let me say she has built an empire that continues to grow by the minute. Without advertising or selling herself by any means, Janis has managed to be unrivaled for more than 20 years. Before the man could even recite his sales spiel Janis stopped him, not wasting any of his or her time. As a matchmaker she has the uncanny ability to read people; apparently even over the phone.

Cutthroat and brutally honest could not describe her any better. If something needs to be said, you better believe she will be the one to say it. Just the other day a client behaved more than inappropriately on a date. Without a twinge of hesitation Janis picked up the phone and, in the nicest way possible, “gave him a talking to.” Needless to say this client, after being reprimanded, was cast out of Janis’ database; a parting that is surely his loss.

Professional and business oriented know-how is just a small part of this internship. She’s a matchmaker, what else do you think I learn? Well, to put it simply anything and everything about guys. God forbid I ever muster up the courage to ask any question I may have. Thankfully I don’t even have to open my mouth; she’s always ready with a story prepping me for my next weekend out.

“The Internship of a Lifetime”—that’s what the add read and that’s truly what it seems to be. I mean how many interns can say they openly talk about bj’s and fake boobs with their boss? Just my luck I guess.

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